Sometimes you need help right now. You are overwhelmed and there’s too much conflicting advice on the internet and in books. I totally understand this feeling and so have put together an easy exercise to help you and your dog get calm and connected. Of course there’s no quick fix for most problems and I strongly advise you to call me for an initial chat to see how I can help you longer term. But if you are feeling desperate and hopeless and just need help right now, then read on…
- Whatever the problem you are facing – your dog is a nightmare on walks, barks too much, chews the furniture, chases cars/bikes/cats, licks obsessively, growls and snaps at people, whines all the time, can’t be left alone, jumps up at people, runs away, refuses to walk, is frightened of the hoover/motorbikes/men/children/loud noises, and so on and so on – this problem won’t go away until you change how you respond.
- First find a place to sit down quietly and just breathe. Breathe into your belly to the count of four, breathe out to the count of four, and pause for the count of four. You can do this alone, or with your dog, inside your house or out in nature. Just find a quiet spot to stop, sit and breathe. Do this NOW. If you would like help with this breathing exercise watch this short video.
- Now that you are calmer, get your dog to sit or lie beside you, on the lead if necessary, and in a quiet safe place. This can be your home, your garden or anywhere where you will not – definitely not – be disturbed for at least ten minutes. Avoid places where your dog will be triggered.
- Repeat the breathing. In for four, out for four and pause for four. Don’t try to control your dog but do notice how she or he reacts to your change in energy.
- Now, keeping your gentle breathing pattern, just watch your dog. Let your eyes stroke their body. Do not touch them with your hands but if they choose to touch you then let them. Look at them closely, mouth, ears, eyes, legs, breathing, their movements and sounds. Just watch and listen in a peaceful manner. Don’t forget to keep your own breathing very slow and quiet.
- This exercise should be repeated at least twice a day for a week. Notice how you feel, notice how your dog responds, notice how you feel about their response – or even lack of response. The aim is to slow down. To have a chance to listen more deeply. Your dog – I promise you – will feel they are being listened to. You’ve both been dealing with a stressful problem and this is the beginning of making a change in your relationship.
- When you call out ‘I need help with my dog – right now’ please remember to do this exercise as soon as possible. And as often as possible.
- No treats, no strokes, no words, no toys, no expectations…..just quiet space.
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